7 Words Concepts

The way I am needs to change from being a problem to being the solution.

Consider this...

"Learn wisdom from the ways of a seedling. A seedling which is never hardened off through stressful situations will never become a strong productive plant."

7 Words Works!

So if you’re looking for 

• help writing sympathy note
• writing formal invitation letter
• help with writing an obituary
• types of writing
• writing letter of intent

   … or any other aspect of personalities and relationships...

7 Words can help.

How?

The 7 Words System is defined by the idea that in all the complexity of human relationships, there are only seven core gestures of communication. They are encapsulated by the 7 primary words and accessed by 28 keywords. For example, Thanks keywords are these:

• Appreciation        
• Valuing
• Giving
• Heart Essence

We mostly do not say literally what we mean.

Although there are  often complex code systems to allow a workable system to operate, the verbal  language we use is not at all clear and depends upon the interpretation of  non-verbal messages. We may think that we can interpret these adequately well,  yet we rarely find out exactly how well by checking against other information.  And actually the ones we do get wrong are sometimes significantly wrong and  cause problems as a result. Also, it is for us to be clear about what is meant  when others give messages to us. We can ask for clarification or we can make an  interpretation and check it out by further examination. Look at this example:

MAVIS
You are the manager of the local butcher shop and Mavis comes in with a piece  of meat she bought yesterday, slaps it on the counter with a huff and a puff  says ‘I wouldn’t feed that to my dog!’ Here’s a quiz: What does she mean…?

No ‘This dog meat isn’t suitable’.
Hello ‘I am offering information about my dog’s culinary preferences.’
Thanks 'You’re the kind of friendly fellow that can take a joke’.
Goodbye ‘… and you can forget my future custom!’
Please ‘I want this meat exchanged for a similar piece of better quality  please, suitable for my husband and me’
Sorry ‘You are a scoundrel! I blame you’.
Yes ‘It’s too good for my dog, I’ll eat it myself.’

You will certainly need a bit more information to be sure  what she means, and this comes from non-verbal clues like tone and body posture  plus further comments from Mavis when asked to expound a little. On the face of  it (in literal terms that is), she’s saying No in a sarcastic way, calling her  prime beef dog meat and unsuitable even for that purpose. She isn’t exchanging  points of view about what dogs like (Hello), nor is she developing rapport by  telling jokes (Thanks), and she hasn’t given notice that she is going to

terminate the relationship at this point (Goodbye). If you chose Please you are  possibly at least half right, although it does require a little bit of mind  reading because there is nothing in what she said to suggest that replacement meat is enough to satisfy; if Sorry—it seems that you already understand the dysfunctional expressions of the 7 Words. Probably, (but who knows?) Mavis is  blameful and calls for apology, so it is to do with Sorry as well as Please. You can feel pretty sure that Yes is not the message because she was huffing  and puffing in her dissatisfaction.
  

Let’s look again at the opening statement:
If you need help writing a sympathy note, writing a formal invitation letter, writing a letter of intent or even a little bit of help with writing an obituary – in fact with all types of writing, speaking and developing listening skills – you will find it of key importance to plan your ideas carefully first. Unlike Mavis you will need to make yourself unambiguously clear. So how to do this?
 
Here is the fundamental suggestion behind 7 Words—that there are seven basic qualities of life experience, including personality profile and compatibility, which can be described by 7 primary words:          

They are among the first words we learn in childhood and yet they are not understood or used particularly well, despite their simplicity. By renewing our focus upon these primary words we can simplify and deepen our attitudes to how and with whom we choose to communicate.
 
If you have enjoyed this brief summary of 7 Words and would like to know more about how it can be applied in detail to improve clarity in communication and other aspects of life in general...
 
..further information and suggestions are available in the form of free questionnaires, reports, eBooks, and other study material

...and for even more detailed explanations and examples of 7 Words applications, try the workbook: 7 Words Principles and Practices.
 
So we encourage you to use 7 Words to explore all of these: 

• help writing sympathy note
 
• writing formal invitation letter
 
• help with writing an obituary
 
• types of writing
 
• writing letter of intent