Writing Character References
How to Write Character References
7 Words are enough
Writing character reference: NO is about boundaries, identity, choice and truth.
For whom are you writing a character reference? Why have you - not someone else - been chosen to write a character reference? Are there guidelines for the content? Will it be the truth? Are you willing to stand by what you intend to write? If there is any come-back, could it be serious?
Writing character reference: HELLO is about: attention, openness and exchange.
What are the specifics? Are you ready to be fairly open about your opinions? What's in this for you? What's in it for the reader? Is the subject likely to gain advantage from this?
Writing character reference: THANK YOU is about appreciating, valuing and giving.
What do you really appreciate about the person? Are these characteristics that the recipient will value? Is the person kind and able to truly give without needing to receive in return - as you may be doing with the time you are spending writing the character reference?
Writing character reference: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.
Is the person decisive? Courageous? How well do they move past difficulties? What about completions? Do they finish what they start?
Writing character reference: PLEASEis about vision, intentionand cooperation.
Would you say this individual is thrusting? Are they good at choosing and asking for what they want? Can they take positive action? Can they easily enlist the help of others?
Writing character reference: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.
In your opinion, is this person humble? Are they responsible? Are they able to 'forgive and forget'? When they cause harm do they do all they can to rectify matters?
Writing character reference: YES is about permission, acceptance and agreement.
Is the person for whom you are writing a character reference able to reach agreement with others, whole-heartedly endorsing declared intentions? Or is their acceptance or permission somewhat reluctant?
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7 Words: everything comes down to seven basics:
No Hello Thanks Goodbye Please Sorry and Yes
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