7 Words Concepts

What makes the world a better place are qualities like warmth, gentleness, understanding, clarity and honesty.

Consider this...

"It is very difficult and expensive to undo after you are married the things that your mother and father did to you while you were putting your first six birthdays behind you."

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What are you interested in?

• types of conflict
• how does parental conflict affect children
• definition of conflict
• techniques of conflict resolution
• conflict management vs conflict resolution
• conflict resolution strategies
• fight or flight conflict resolution

Perhaps 7 Words can help?

How?
 
The 7 Words System offers a simple intuitive method that enables us to reach a much better sense of what exactly we are looking for. It begins with the word No. We need firstly to define exactly what we don’t want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.  It is defined by the idea that in all the complexity of human relationships, there are only seven core gestures of communication. They are encapsulated by the 7 primary words and accessed by 28 keywords.

For example, Thanks keywords are these:

• Appreciation        
• Valuing
• Giving
• Heart Essence
  

The 7 aspects of expression are the essential themes within all things—they convey the necessary stages that healthy exchanges go through because they are the foundation of all thoughts, ideas and behaviors. So they can be useful for conflict management or conflict resolution.By deepening our understanding of these words, we can come to clarity, truth and completion in all our dealings and our personality compatibility with everyone in our lives. The 7 words can develop in us a mastery of communication that enables us to focus our minds, to speak our truth, and to thrive in all our relationships.
 

Here is the fundamental suggestion behind 7 Words—that there are seven basic qualities of life experience, including personality profile and compatibility, which can be described by 7 primary words:
          
              No       Hello       Thanks      Goodbye       Please       Sorry        Yes  

Responsibility

It is quite a major life achievement to become truly  responsible adults who have the willingness and ability to discharge our duty  and obligations fully and properly in all situations and at all times. If, for  example, we are middle management officers working in a company whose  production methods are excessively unecological—how do we discharge our  responsibilities both to the planet that nurtures us and the employer who pays  us? We buy consumable items without knowing how the plastic packaging will be  returned to a natural condition that harms nothing.

We become aware of a  distortion of truth and yet leave it unexposed. We are convinced that people in  public office are misusing their position for personal advantage and we leave  it for others to try to unseat them. Are we aware that we must take  responsibility for our lack of action as much as our actions? We are all faced  with such ambiguities from day to day, and in truth, most of us shy away from  dealing with them. Typically, even a highly responsible person will wait until  faced with an issue that needs to be dealt with, and then express their ability  to respond. And yet so much evidence is around all the time of a need for a  higher awareness of our not having practised acceptable levels of  responsibility.

We are shamefully at fault and continually ignoring what is  staring us in the face—as a species, humanity is simply not acting responsibly,  and individually each of us has some part in that tragic error of omission. We  will only reclaim our honour by taking the initiative to act where required.

By  contrast, let’s consider what it means to be irresponsible. The sense we have  is of a person who acts without concern for the effect of their actions,  without the ability or intention of controlling themselves in order to act within  acceptable limits, someone who cares little for the inconvenience caused to  others and does not clean up the mess they make.

This person is not to be  trusted and allows things to happen that need to be prevented, they are poor  leaders and cannot maintain authority, and they are not given to attend to  their commitments and duties without close supervision. Ironically, such a  person may be the one who says Sorry frequently because they have been found  wanting and exposed in their dereliction of duty.

For them the Sorry word slips  easily off the tongue—and yet is neither meant nor believed in any profound  sense. It is an expedient only, and lacks the depth required to ground it in  real terms.

Why talk of Responsibility?

It is the first keyword that relates to Sorry, which is the 6th primary word, and perhaps the one that is the most useful in this context.

Here is a quick overview of the meanings:

First there is No. Without a rejection of the status quo, nothing moves, because otherwise all is acceptable and no motivation arises. The opening out that follows is Hello: to new things, new people, new ideas—all energized by curiosity. It is entirely natural to have preferences and to appreciate certain of these new experiences as of more value; this is Thanks. Nothing lasts for long, and we move away, even from things we love—Goodbye. The reason we do this, is because we have a vision of a better life and seek the cooperation of others to get it. That’s where Please comes in.
In doing our own thing, we impact upon others, and occasionally this can be inconvenient or even painful for them—so they may block us. Until we say Sorry. For all our clear intentions, for all our dreams—we end up getting whatever life puts our way, which is always different from what we expect, and we have to accept that, like it or not, we need to learn to say Yes.

Thus the cycle of life—whether or not we are in relationship—unfolds from No to Yes.
 
If you have enjoyed this brief summary of 7 Words and would like to know more about how it can be applied in detail to improve relationships and other aspects of life in general...
 
  ..further information and suggestions are available in the form of free questionnaires, reports, eBooks, and other study material...
  and for even more detailed explanations and examples of 7 Words applications, try the workbook: 7 Words Principles and Practices.
 
  So we encourage you to use 7 Words to explore all of these:

• fight or flight conflict resolution
• definition of conflict
• techniques of conflict resolution
• conflict management vs conflict resolution
• types of conflict
• seven stages of conflict resolution
• conflict resolution strategies
• how does parental conflict affect children