Conflict Resolution
New methods of resolving conflict
The 7 Words Life Management Technique studies various types of conflict and their resolution
From Our Questionnaire
7 Words Works!
How?
The 7 Words System offers a simple intuitive method that enables us to reach a much better sense of what exactly we are looking for. It begins with the word No. We need firstly to define exactly what we don’t want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want. It is defined by the idea that in all the complexity of human relationships, there are only seven core gestures of communication. They are encapsulated by the 7 primary words and accessed by 28 keywords.
For example, Thanks keywords are these:
- Appreciation
- Valuing i>Giving
- Heart Essence
The 7 aspects of expression are the essential themes within all things—they convey the necessary stages that healthy exchanges go through because they are the foundation of all thoughts, ideas and behaviors. So they can be useful for conflict management or conflict resolution.By deepening our understanding of these words, we can come to clarity, truth and completion in all our dealings and our personality compatibility with everyone in our lives. The 7 words can develop in us a mastery of communication that enables us to focus our minds, to speak our truth, and to thrive in all our relationships.
Here is the fundamental suggestion behind 7 Words—that there are seven basic qualities of life experience, including personality profile and compatibility, which can be described by 7 primary words:
No Hello Thanks Goodbye Please Sorry Yes
Responsibility
We become aware of a distortion of truth and yet leave it unexposed. We are convinced that people in public office are misusing their position for personal advantage and we leave it for others to try to unseat them. Are we aware that we must take responsibility for our lack of action as much as our actions? We are all faced with such ambiguities from day to day, and in truth, most of us shy away from dealing with them. Typically, even a highly responsible person will wait until faced with an issue that needs to be dealt with, and then express their ability to respond. And yet so much evidence is around all the time of a need for a higher awareness of our not having practised acceptable levels of responsibility.
We are shamefully at fault and continually ignoring what is staring us in the face—as a species, humanity is simply not acting responsibly, and individually each of us has some part in that tragic error of omission. We will only reclaim our honour by taking the initiative to act where required.
By contrast, let’s consider what it means to be irresponsible. The sense we have is of a person who acts without concern for the effect of their actions, without the ability or intention of controlling themselves in order to act within acceptable limits, someone who cares little for the inconvenience caused to others and does not clean up the mess they make.
This person is not to be trusted and allows things to happen that need to be prevented, they are poor leaders and cannot maintain authority, and they are not given to attend to their commitments and duties without close supervision. Ironically, such a person may be the one who says Sorry frequently because they have been found wanting and exposed in their dereliction of duty.
For them the Sorry word slips easily off the tongue—and yet is neither meant nor believed in any profound sense. It is an expedient only, and lacks the depth required to ground it in real terms.
Why talk of Responsibility?
It is the first keyword that relates to Sorry, which is the 6th primary word, and perhaps the one that is the most useful in this context.
Here is a quick overview of the meanings:
First there is No. Without a rejection of the status quo, nothing moves, because otherwise all is acceptable and no motivation arises. The opening out that follows is Hello: to new things, new people, new ideas—all energized by curiosity. It is entirely natural to have preferences and to appreciate certain of these new experiences as of more value; this is Thanks. Nothing lasts for long, and we move away, even from things we love—Goodbye. The reason we do this, is because we have a vision of a better life and seek the cooperation of others to get it. That’s where Please comes in. In doing our own thing, we impact upon others, and occasionally this can be inconvenient or even painful for them—so they may block us. Until we say Sorry. For all our clear intentions, for all our dreams—we end up getting whatever life puts our way, which is always different from what we expect, and we have to accept that, like it or not, we need to learn to say Yes. Thus the cycle of life—whether or not we are in relationship—unfolds from No to Yes.
If you have enjoyed this brief summary of 7 Words and would like to know more about how it can be applied in detail to improve relationships and other aspects of life in general...
..further information and suggestions are available in the form of free questionnaires, reports, eBooks and other study material...
and for even more detailed explanations and examples of 7 Words applications, try the workbook: 7 Words Principles and Practices.
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Self-examination "Relationship"
You can have fun with this or take it very seriously...it is a way to look at yourself and your circumstances
Drag these life categories into your order of importance for you
Score each 1 to 10 according to how satisfied you are with this area of life
The Satisfaction Index is a measure of your level of OK-ness with this area of your life
The Primary Word and Critial Keywords may help guide you towards improvement of the quality of your life
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